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Why Queen Esther Matters for Feminism Today

     

I recently made a video about how bad I am at cooking. A 16 year- old girl commented on the instagram confessional, “I’m glad to know I’m not the only Christian girl bad at cooking. Now there are two of us.” Of course she was being funny and we both had a good laugh. We went on to discuss common misconceptions about women, girls, ministry, gender roles, and what it means to be a Christian during this new feminism movement.

While it’s important to look at the biblical model for households, it is also equally important to look at how God used women to accomplish His goals outside of the kitchen. As a Girls Minister, who works with teenagers for a living, let me tell you, one of the reasons women young and old have rejected biblical womanhood is because most teaching leaves out exciting Biblical stories with women in the starring roles. Thus enters the allure of the feminist movement.

 Today we are going to look at a woman with a leading role in the Bible and in history, Queen Esther. Esther lives a real-life Cinderella story, has an entire Biblical book named after her, and manages to change the mind of a king and the direction of a country through her wisdom, beauty, timely words, and place of royalty. Esther has an important message for Christian girls and woman who desperately want an exciting life, impactful existence, and secretly wonder if in order to accomplish these goals they must side with the feminist movement. Let’s look at why Queen Esther matters for the feminist movement of today.

Esther 4:14 is the most quoted verse in the entire biblical book of Esther.

“For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come into your royal position for such a time as this?” Esther 4:14

This is her uncle appealing to Esther to stand up for the Jews who were being mistreated and to use her high position in order to get her convictions heard before the king.  The verse directly contrasts the idea that the Bible oppresses women.  God placed Esther as Queen in order to lead a revolution!

1. Esther only used methods and means that were effective. If Esther lived in 2017, she would not have attended the Women’s March. How do I know this? She had seen the King’s first wife, Queen Vashti, behave in a feminist protest by refusing to obey her husband, to submit to God-given authority, or follow the norms for the culture of the day- which resulted in her losing her crown. Esther was not about to repeat the same mistake.

2. Esther had a systematic plan in mind and motion. Esther was not interested in merely yelling loud enough or long enough to get someone’s attention. She wanted results and to keep her husband’s heart, interest, and trust. Esther did not merely make him change his mind as a result of a tantrum. She carefully planned and respectfully appealed to her king and husband.

3. Esther kept her dignity resulting in her keeping her crown. Esther was not rash in the way she planned to confront injustice. Esther did not demand action but requested her voice be heard and her plan carried out. Because of her patience and calm demeanor, her husband was open to hearing her concerns.

4. Esther was her own person while remaining submissive. Esther had her own ideas about culture, society, justice, and equality- and that is more than okay! In fact, Esther differing in opinion from her husband is a main plot of this story! She was her own person, with her own ideas, who respectfully brought her request to the king and he listened.

There are ungodly and unequal ideas, laws, practices, and crimes that must change for women in 2017. Culture needs to progress in how women are treated and Christians need to stand for those who are mistreated. In the midst of creating a better world for women, there is value in learning how women in the Bible used their power, influence, grace, patience, beauty, and position to change the minds of kings and the direction of history!

tags: feminism, Women's march, women ministry, girls ministry, student ministry, women, girls, lead, equality, esther, Jesus, Christian, Biblical womanhood
Tuesday 05.23.17
Posted by Julia Jeffress Sadler
 

Why It's OK, Not to be OK ! (Podcast)

This month I had the incredible opportunity to be interviewed by Advance Now Media on "Why It's OK, Not to be OK": Hope & Help for Depression, Anxiety, & Suicide. Advance Now media is a podcast by the Southern Baptist of Texas Convention.

My heart and soul is to help everyone and anyone who is struggling with depression, anxiety, & suicidal thoughts by offering them hope and help! Hope you enjoy! 

 "Why It's OK, To Not Be OK -Hope & Help for Depression, Anxiety, & Suicide". Click the link to listen: http://bit.ly/Its_OK

tags: depression, suicide, suicide prevention, anxiety, hope, help, psychology, spirituality, teens, Christianity, student ministry, motivation, inspire, counseling, life, christianity, girls ministry, God, Jesus, women, millenials, women ministry, students
Monday 12.05.16
Posted by Julia Jeffress Sadler
 

What Everyone Needs to Know About Suicide

First of all, I realize this is not the most positive post to launch my new blog. However, God keeps reminding me how important the topic of suicide is to Him. The topic of suicide is important to God because it deals with life and death in this life and in eternity. If a topic is important to God then it needs to be important to us. Recently I've been asking God to help me "hate what He hates and love what He loves." I am convinced that God hates suicide and loves people.

Just in the past 2 days I have counseled with three teenagers contemplating suicide. Those students were not atheists. Those students did not wear all black and only listen to heavy metal. Those students were all devout Christians who are struggling with depression and feel trapped by their circumstances.

September is designated as suicide awareness month. Suicide is a tragedy that affects millions of people’s lives either directly or indirectly. You will be hard pressed to find someone who hasn’t dealt with suicide in some capacity. With this heartbreaking reality in our culture, it is imperative that teenagers, parents, school teachers, clergy, & basically everyone knows warning signs of suicide, causes of suicide, & how to find help for people struggling with suicide and depression. 

Here are some quick facts about suicide complimentary of dosomething.org and health.com

Suicide Facts:  

  • Suicide is a tragedy that affects over 5,000 teenagers in the US a year.
  • Nearly 30,000 Americans commit suicide yearly. 
  • Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for 15-24 year olds.
  • Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death for 24-35 year olds. 
  • Each suicide intimately affects at least 6 people. 
  • Depression that is untreated, undiagnosed, or ineffectively treated is the number 1 cause of suicide. 
  • Strong social support is known to lower suicide risk
  • Suicide can trigger copy-cat attempts

It is my belief that suicide is 100% preventable if you know what to look for in others and how to get help if you ever get to the point of contemplating suicide. One study reported that 1 in 5 high schoolers have contemplated suicide in the past year. This is an important study because it shows how common suicidal thoughts are BUT also that it's possible to not follow your thoughts to the point of action. I could write about this topic all day but for now here are some important things to know...

If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide:

1. Tell someone! 

Let me be quick to say, don't just tell anyone. You need to tell a parent, teacher, professional, counselor, call 911, or call The National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255. This is too serious to keep to yourself. You are not going to be in trouble. There is no shame in getting help. Just like bodies can get sick, so can your mind. You may save your life. 

2. Understand while you pain is real, it's also temporary! 

You are not always going to feel this way, have this situation, difficult person, or feelings of sadness, etc. People who survived suicide attempts have reported experiencing the impulse to go away after 2 hours. That means 2 hours later people were very thankful their suicide attempt did NOT work and they were able to live! Your situation will get better. You will not always feel this way. 

3.  Realize suicide doesn't fix anything, it only prevents your situation from ever getting better! 

Satan specializes in near-sightedness. He loves when we can only see our present situation and become distressed to the point of becoming suicidal. John 10:10 says, "The thief (Satan) comes to steal, kill, and destroy but I (Jesus) have come that you may have life and have it to the fullest." Don't let Satan or anyone else convince you your situation is hopeless! The God of all the universe says that is not true about you or your situation! 

If you are concerned about someone who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts:

1. Recognize the Signs! From webmd.com

  • Always talking or thinking about death
  • Clinical depression -- deep sadness, loss of interest, trouble sleeping and eating -- that gets worse
  • Having a "death wish," tempting fate by taking risks that could lead to death, such as driving fast or running red lights
  • Losing interest in things one used to care about
  • Making comments about being hopeless, helpless, or worthless
  • Putting affairs in order, tying up loose ends, changing a will
  • Saying things like "it would be better if I wasn't here" or "I want out"
  • Sudden, unexpected switch from being very sad to being very calm or appearing to be happy
  • Talking about suicide or killing one's self
  • Visiting or calling people to say goodbye

2. Ask the Question!

If you suspect someone is depressed or suicidal, ask them! You are not giving them a new idea. You are offering hope and support. This helps them to tell on themselves. 

3. Get them help!

It's so important to be supportive of depressed and suicidal friends, family, children, students, etc. but realize you're not a professional ( unless you actually are). Make sure that person gets the professional help they need. It is not your job to decide if someone is serious or not. It's your job to make sure they are safe. 

4. Don't mitigate someone's suffering!

This is especially important for parents! What's not a big deal to you, could be the end of the world to your child. Calling a child dramatic or dismissing their feelings only perpetuates their hopelessness. Take your child at their word. If they are saying they're suicidal or depressed, do not reprimand them or convince them otherwise. Thank God that they told you and get them the help they need!

Jesus tells us in John 16:33, "I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble; but take heart; I have overcome the world." Pain is a part of the human condition. Pain is real. Pain is also temporary. If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts please tell someone! 

Never, Never, Never Give up!

Julia J. Sadler

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tags: suicide, depression, mental illness, psychology, students, suicide awareness month, teenagers, student ministry, suicide prevention
Thursday 09.22.16
Posted by Julia Jeffress Sadler
 

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